Teens are naturally curious and willing to try new and different “feelings.” Sexual curiosity fuels the fire of lust and many young people and adults have become entrapped with “sexual experimentations.” This lust, and eventual sex before marriage is not to be considered as a “harmless experience of life.” Lust leads to hurt, spiritual decline, sexual addictions and fornication and adultery. Acting upon sinful thoughts can be catastrophic. I Peter 2:11 states:
“Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul:”
Let’s take a closer look:
1) The View of God’s Word on Sexuality
A. Human sexuality is seen as very good.
B. God created sex and He wants couples to enjoy it...Genesis 2:21-25.
C. Sexual intercourse is for procreation, pleasure, and for oneness.
D. God designed sex for marriage.
2) The Consequences of Sex Before Marriage
A loss of self-respect, a loss of virginity, possible unwanted pregnancy, possible illegitimate children, forced marriage, decisions regarding abortion, sexually transmitted disease are all possible consequences of pre-marital sex. Josh McDowell expounds upon this in his book entitled, Handbook on Counseling Youth.”"The emotional costs of sexual immorality are immeasurable. Low self-esteem, humiliation, and even self- hatred are common testimonials of those who practice “free sex.”
Manhattan sex therapist, Shirley Zussman says, “Being part of a meat market is appalling in terms of self-esteem.”
A teenage girl describes her account of anguish and hurt in this open testimony:
“Having premarital sex was the most horrifying experience of my life. It wasn’t at all the emotionally satisfying experience the world deceived me into believing. I felt as if my insides were being exposed and my heart left unattended....I know God has forgiven me of this haunting sin, but I also know I can never have my virginity back. I dread the day that I have to tell the man I truly love and wish to marry that he is not the only one, though I wish he were....I have stained my life - a stain that will never come out.”
Proverbs 5:15-21 signals a flashing warning:
“Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed; and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings.”
3) Helps to maintain a chaste lifestyle:
A. Study God’s Word. Stay close to God’s Word with daily devotionals and pure thoughts.
Include prayer and praise to the Lord. Focus on purity and chasity.
B. Set Godly Standards for Yourself
Determine to set specific limits for any and all types of sexual impurity.
“NO” is okay and no explanation is needed.
C. Set Definite Plans when Dating
Plan your agenda ahead of time when dating. Where are you going, what are you going to do,
who will be with you, when are you going home.
D. Listen to Wise Counsel
There are many older and wiser Christian examples for you to follow.
Emulate those who have won Godly victories over the impulsiveness of sexuality.
Do not let sexual matters become a bondage upon you. Sex before marriage hinders ones relationship with the Holy Father. Walk with your Lord and prayer for help in time of temptations.